Spring gleaning…

new bud

The urge to sort things out in spring extends beyond closets and cupboards.

It seems a fitting time to organize one’s insights as well, what’s been gleaned from the past few seasons.

Since spring has a way of awakening thoughts about what we want, the notions i’m sorting out today have to do with desires.

You sometimes hear people say you can get anything you want if you want it badly enough and are willing to work toward it.

Nurturing desires makes them more likely to come to fruition, of course. But equanimity in the meantime requires being clear about what’s within our control and what isn’t.

In the spring, i wait for the night chill to soften, to correspond with the warming of the daytimes, and i expect to inhale that special spring smell any day now.

Nature tends to accommodate my desire eventually. I get something i want because i’m aligned with these rhythms.

Some things we simply go after.

Learning a language, for instance, or, well, organizing a closet. They will not happen without taking the initiative, investing some time, doing the work.

Let’s say you’re learning Spanish — and then you decide you’d like to visit Spain. The obstacles get a little bigger, maybe with regard to finances or getting time away from a job.

You may have to think through larger trade-offs involved in the endeavor.

In other circumstances, the longing for something has little to no bearing on getting it.

I may have thought i interviewed well for that job, but the ultimate determinant of whether i land the position is out of my hands.

Especially in the arena of relationships, where we want someone we love to be healthier, or happier, or to love us back, we can only do so much toward fostering that reality.

What we do have some influence over is how we choose to view such situations, how we cope with and compartmentalize them.

Our lives are an amalgam of randomness, consequences, and our ways of seeing and sorting them.

There’s a delicate art to identifying and distinguishing between desires, goals and expectations.

And it’s a balancing act to prioritize and pursue what we want, while simultaneously working on being ok with the possibility of not getting it.

I’ve noticed since last spring that it can be very gratifying to see things go as planned –and that it can be very gratifying to be able to roll with it when they don’t.

Well, i guess that would cover just about everything.

Which suggests another spring gleaning — gratitude, then, is always in order.

10 thoughts on “Spring gleaning…

  1. Like this! Your thoughts are “spot on”. Conversation with friends this week about wants and needs. I’ve found that want is no longer part of my vocabulary. Friend said if she didn’t want she would feel that she was giving up. The Breast Cancer groups next meeting is Wednesday May 8th at 4:30 at Glas Coffee house. Bring a book you are reading and share. Lasts one hour. I think your articulate sharing would be great. Phyllis

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    • Tnx for your comment and the meeting tips, P.
      Interesting perspectives on wanting from both you and your friend.
      Glad it tied in for you, and would be good to see you soon.

  2. “And it’s a balancing act to prioritize and pursue what we want, while simultaneously working on being ok with the possibility of not getting it.” I totally agree. And all too often people can become consumed with chasing after it, even when these things are elusive, or when they’re things that involve chance and timing and coming to us, rather than things that can be achieved just through our desire and actions alone. I think to be happy, it takes a balancing act of taking initiative and working towards something, with also learning to be grateful and content, just as things are. I love the way spring makes instils that feeling of a life refresh, not just a spring clean of physical surroundings. It’s a great time to reflect and take stock of where we’re at and where we’re going. Great post! 🙂
    Caz xx

  3. Katherine, As always, thanks for your gleanings. Your words remind me of an old maxim I heard long ago – “You can’t change someone else. You can only change how you respond to that person.” And I would add, my response needs not to come from trying to convince others with “facts”, but to come from my values, which are hopefully in tune with what others value. But so much for my gleanings from your gleanings. Thom

    On Sat, Apr 13, 2019 at 9:35 AM A Hansen Chronicle wrote:

    > Katherine posted: ” The urge to sort things out in spring extends beyond > closets and cupboards. It seems a fitting time to organize one’s insights > as well, what’s been gleaned from the past few seasons. Since spring has a > way of awakening thoughts about what we want, t” >

    • Yes, responding to others from authenticity can be both a fine line and a far cry from being out to convince or change them. Thanks, Thom.

  4. Yes, both seeing things go as planned and being able to roll with it when they don’t are both very gratifying.  But not quite everything is covered.  I am dismayed (not gratified) if I roll like a square wheel after plans crash.  Maybe I will be gratified later, if I manage to become more resilient and resourceful.

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